Comments on: Guest Post: On Being Multiracial and Finding a Match http://crazygirlnation.com/2010/03/on-being-multiracial-and-finding-a-match/ Advice for Crazy Girls and the People Who Love Us! Wed, 16 May 2012 20:54:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Anilia http://crazygirlnation.com/2010/03/on-being-multiracial-and-finding-a-match/comment-page-1/#comment-1053 Anilia Thu, 04 Mar 2010 03:26:35 +0000 http://crazygirlnation.com/?p=1204#comment-1053 Lori this was such an interesting post. The first thought that went through my mind was that I'd never really thought about how dating could be different for a mixed-race person, and that you'd have complex issues/situations regarding your racial identity and your potential mates. <b>So I still find it strange when I hear that people seek out a dream partner of a certain race, a certain religious background, a certain culture.</b> I think these people are focused on what love 'looks' like, and not what it feels like - not what's really important, how compatible you are and the person's capacity for a loving, healthy relationship. <b>Because my racial identity blends together with these other identities, it wouldn’t make sense for me to think that the only person who could really “get” me would share just one of these characteristics.</b> I also find that people (ok, my friends lol) who cling to a certain race for their mate don't identify with all of their identities as their complete identity. They just think of themselves as Jewish, Black, etc and not include everything, as you do. Lori this was such an interesting post. The first thought that went through my mind was that I’d never really thought about how dating could be different for a mixed-race person, and that you’d have complex issues/situations regarding your racial identity and your potential mates.

So I still find it strange when I hear that people seek out a dream partner of a certain race, a certain religious background, a certain culture.
I think these people are focused on what love ‘looks’ like, and not what it feels like – not what’s really important, how compatible you are and the person’s capacity for a loving, healthy relationship.

Because my racial identity blends together with these other identities, it wouldn’t make sense for me to think that the only person who could really “get” me would share just one of these characteristics.
I also find that people (ok, my friends lol) who cling to a certain race for their mate don’t identify with all of their identities as their complete identity. They just think of themselves as Jewish, Black, etc and not include everything, as you do.

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