Today I went to see the movie An Education and I absolutely loved it. In short, a young girl who is very book-smart doesn’t have a lot of street smarts. She falls in love with an older man who turns out to not be the wonderful man she thinks he is and learns some important lessons about love, family, goals, and trust. The tension and anxiety in the movie were palpable. Shadiah and I spent the entire movie whispering, gasping, and wincing with self-recognition. I was taken back to the lessons I’ve had to learn—painfully and slowly after many tears and hours on the phone with my girlfriends and my grandma. After the movie, me and Shadiah reminisced about the heartbreaks we’ve each gone through—and the long journey out of denial we each had to take on more than one occasion. Thank God my Dating Dummy days are over—or at least on their way out.
The Love Lessons I’ve Had to Learn:
- Those you love don’t always love you back.
- You can’t make a man love you.
- If someone isn’t sure they want to be with you, you have to let him go.
- Your girlfriends are well-meaning, but they often give a lot of bad advice.
- You should never chase a man—no matter how shy, intimidated, or “confused” you think he is.
- If a man lies to you once, he will do it again. And again. And again.
What love lessons have you all had to learn?
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Great Post Kaneisha! This is so, so true. You have divine timing, I needed to hear this right now and I went back and read some of the other posts for reinforcement. It is so hard to have flashbacks of painful lessons learned, but I always try to focus on how much stronger I have become and appreciate the journey.
@Lauren: Yep, that’s what we all have to do. We can’t beat ourselves up for the mistakes we made. We were doing the best we knew how at the time.
Never let a man know you like doing housework! Even if you ARE a desperate housewife!!
@Suki: Great advice! You never want to get stuck with the chores “because you like them”. However, I do enjoy cooking and my boyfriend knows it now! He does a good job of not expecting me to do it all the time though, so it works out.