Comments on: No More Crying on the Inside http://crazygirlnation.com/2009/11/no-more-crying-on-the-inside/ Advice for Crazy Girls and the People Who Love Us! Wed, 16 May 2012 20:54:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: The Secret to Getting a Man and Staying in Love http://crazygirlnation.com/2009/11/no-more-crying-on-the-inside/comment-page-1/#comment-2316 The Secret to Getting a Man and Staying in Love Thu, 11 Nov 2010 01:08:26 +0000 http://crazygirlnation.com/?p=930#comment-2316 [...] Related posts:No More Crying on the Inside [...] [...] Related posts:No More Crying on the Inside [...]

]]> By: Prosechild http://crazygirlnation.com/2009/11/no-more-crying-on-the-inside/comment-page-1/#comment-643 Prosechild Wed, 11 Nov 2009 00:41:43 +0000 http://crazygirlnation.com/?p=930#comment-643 You're soooo right. Its really easy to say "this is what I want and how I'm gonna get it" but then undermine our actions by thinking opposing thoughts. Another thing that helps is constant positive self-talk to combat that crazy, worry-laden part of our brain. And not judging our negative thoughts is paramount - you hit the nail with that one. You’re soooo right. Its really easy to say “this is what I want and how I’m gonna get it” but then undermine our actions by thinking opposing thoughts. Another thing that helps is constant positive self-talk to combat that crazy, worry-laden part of our brain. And not judging our negative thoughts is paramount – you hit the nail with that one.

]]> By: Shadiah http://crazygirlnation.com/2009/11/no-more-crying-on-the-inside/comment-page-1/#comment-638 Shadiah Tue, 10 Nov 2009 12:21:55 +0000 http://crazygirlnation.com/?p=930#comment-638 I really love the exercise about not judging your thoughts as good or bad. We practice this in yoga, when we're in a difficult pose. The instructor asks us to step outsider ourselves to "observe" as an outsider how exactly how we're reacting to difficulty and not to make ourselves feel bad when we're thinking "oh, this is hard, I can't wait until it's over." As you said, we're just not supposed to DWELL on the thought. But we should accept it as just another part of us, and move on! Just being conscious of it, I think, sometimes allows our SUBconscious to deal with it and make it go away! An example: Yesterday I was feeling so uneasy, like I had a queasy feeling in my gut. And I was so proud that I didn't let it grow. I didn't allow myself to feel anxiety about having anxiety! So I continued through my day, aware of this feeling, without freaking out or constructing crazy ideas about how my gut was telling me the world is coming to an end or something. Then when I talked to my boyfriend later, I calmly explained my feeling, and then "presto!" I figured out what it was (it had nothing to do with him, actually it was all about me feeling over-comitted and tired), he helped me figure out a solution and I had the BEST sleep I've had in a whole week! I really love the exercise about not judging your thoughts as good or bad. We practice this in yoga, when we’re in a difficult pose. The instructor asks us to step outsider ourselves to “observe” as an outsider how exactly how we’re reacting to difficulty and not to make ourselves feel bad when we’re thinking “oh, this is hard, I can’t wait until it’s over.” As you said, we’re just not supposed to DWELL on the thought. But we should accept it as just another part of us, and move on! Just being conscious of it, I think, sometimes allows our SUBconscious to deal with it and make it go away!

An example: Yesterday I was feeling so uneasy, like I had a queasy feeling in my gut. And I was so proud that I didn’t let it grow. I didn’t allow myself to feel anxiety about having anxiety! So I continued through my day, aware of this feeling, without freaking out or constructing crazy ideas about how my gut was telling me the world is coming to an end or something. Then when I talked to my boyfriend later, I calmly explained my feeling, and then “presto!” I figured out what it was (it had nothing to do with him, actually it was all about me feeling over-comitted and tired), he helped me figure out a solution and I had the BEST sleep I’ve had in a whole week!

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