I completely understand your feelings for this guy. I have been through in a similar situation last year and know how difficult it gets. This guy was two timing and every time he would fight with her he would come running to me and make me feel like there’s no one else better than me. He went to the extent of proposing marriage to me and within 3 days told me that he is confused about me (this was not coz he was confused, but cos he patched up with his other GF).

My sincerest advice to you would be “MOVE ON”. Its just not worth wasting your time for / with this guy. He is only using you as per his convenience, and you don’t want anyone to use you.

Stop taking his calls, or texting him. In fact just change your no. He can’t be sailing in both the boats. In fact now even if he wants to get back with her, i would recommend you don’t. Remember if he can leave someone for you, he can surely leave you for someone too…… All the best!!

Thanks so much for the encouraging words and advice. I have been trying so hard and looking everywhere for some uplifting words of wisdom to help me with my current situation..
I’m in love with this amazing guy. The same guy who I started dating a year ago only to get my heart broken on my birthday. We were together for nine months, which were spent mostly arguing, but the times we weren’t arguing were the most incredible. Or so I thought. Turns out he had been two-timing me with another girl that he had been with for two years before he started dating me. He stopped talking to me on my birthday because the girl found messages from me on his Facebook account and so he blocked my number and cut me out of his life in an attempt to win her back because he “couldn’t lose her”.
He didn’t even bother telling me what was going on. He just cut me out of his life on my birthday without so much as a text message to say he doesn’t want to be with me anymore. I had to hear it from my ex-best friend, because he phoned her and told her to tell me to stop texting him so he could be with another girl.
I was so in shock I couldn’t believe what was happening. That moment traumatized me and I’ll never be the same. This happened to me 2 months ago, and I get shudders whenever I think about how it made me feel. I spent the night of my birthday in my bed crying my eyes out like a baby.
Three weeks later, after struggling and fighting so hard to forget about him, he texted me and appologized for what he did to me. I was so surprised and shocked that he messaged me, but I was angry and happy at the same time cause I missed him so much. I told him to never text me again and that he was dead to me. He stopped texting me, and two weeks later he texted me again to say hello. This time I gave in.
I couldn’t get over him no matter how hard I tried. I love this guy with my whole heart and everytime I think about him I get butterflies in my stomach. He’s everything I want in a guy. Everything except the jerk inside him.
Ever since then he has been texting me all the time giving me mixed signals and going back and forth between me and his other girl. She has no idea he talks to me, nor do his friends. He said he loves me but he loves her as well and has sincerely told me that he is confused and doesn’t know who he wants to be with because he has feelings for us both. You won’t believe the amount of times I have tried to pull away from him. He has a death grip on my heart and I can’t get away no matter how hard I try. But at the same time I don’t want to lose him again. I told myself I would never let myself get in this situation. To let a man have such control over me. Every time I leave he uses his manipulative words to get me back, it works every time. He only talks to me when its convenient for him to do so. When he texts me or comes to see me my whole world brightens up. But when he ignores me or doesnt contact me all day my world falls apart again. He is no good at all, he uses people, and only cares about himself. He will never change. But no matter how many times I repeat those words to myself I keep going back to him. Even though I hate everything about him, I love who he is and who he can be when he tries.
I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I know he is no good for me. He has no heart and will never know how to love someone. Even his friends know that he will never be faithful to any girl. He knows it too.
Please, if you have any advice, I’d love to hear it. I need to get away from this guy and break free. I just have no idea how I’m going to do it or if I can. Please help. I’m desperate.

I came across this site and thought wow!

I have been with this guy almost a year and every couple of months he does this to me.

1st time he said the words “I don’t know what I want, wether I want to be single or in a relationship” – I told him that I couldn’t make that decision, he needed to make it for himself. A few hours later he told me his decision was our relationship.

2nd time we broke up – it lasted a whole 24 hours, before we got back together.

3rd time three days ago – he told me that he doesn’t know what he wants. I told him the same thing – that I couldn’t make that decision for him, he needed to make it. The weird thing is this time we didn’t speak the day after and yesterday when we did speak, he acted like it was nothing and that he still hadn’t made a decision on what he wanted. I told him that it wasn’t fair to keep this stringed along and he would have to make one, I ended the call pretty after that making out that I was busy. Now day 3 and nothing.

Why does he keep doing this? I love him with all my heart, I want a life with him. Am I wasting my time or do I just give him more space?

If he’s upset I’ve finished it completely then thats his loss and he should have messed me around. If he’s not bothered then i’ve saved myself a few more days or weeks of feeling insecure and rejected.

He even told me that everything will be fine and he will come back to me if their relationship doesn’t work the second time around. He keeps on telling me to wait for him because he’ll come back. What do you think of this? Should I let him go? If he asks me to wait for him,should I tell him that I won’t wait for him anymore? I really don’t know what to do. I’m scared that he might not come back if I let go of him totally without telling him that I”ll wait for him. I’m in pain now because I keep on thinking why he’s doing this to me. I did everything for him. I even gave my virginity to him because he told me that he’s going to be my husband. But now all his promises were gone because of his ex girlfriend. Please help.. you’re advices are much appreciated. thank you.

Were in the same situation right now, the words he said to me. I want also an answer about this…the word he said to you exactly the same. Sometimes I can say to man unfair and selfish..but lets wait for the right time, Maybe he’s thinking for a deeper relationship with you.