Thxs for answering K.Actually,the guy is not my bf yet,I guess we’re flirting right now.But it doesn’t prevent us from having serious conversations about relationships and what we expect.
I had a huge fight with him about that jealousy thing and it was pretty nasty.I guess I overreacted and got him wrong.He doesn’t want me to cut out all my male friends and not hang out with them (he has some female friends as well),but he just doesn’t want me to stay at male friends’ anymore,he doesn’t me want to sleep at their places,because in his own words “a man remains a man”.To put it differently, there’s no use in playing with fire.
The more I tried to tell him they’re just friends and I don’t think anything could happen,the less he feels comfortable about it.
It remains a very touchy issue and I guess if we ever start dating,it’s gonna take a while to work that out.
Other than that,he’s not that jealous and was pretty pissed to find out I thought dating him meant being in prison.
So that’s it!!But I agree with you on a certain number of arguments you came up with.
That makes me think about the boundaries of independence/freedom in a relationship,and how to deal with your need for independence as a person opposed to the compromises you have to make when you’re dating somebody.Basically,how to find a happy medium between your life an individual and your couple.What do you think?Could it become a post?