During the course of a relationship, you may start to feel taken for granted by your boyfriend. He no longer takes you out on exciting, new dates. He doesn’t buy you flowers. You have reverted to splitting the dinner bill (which is probably take-out) like two college roommates. You are wondering how to get the spark back, and you think getting your boyfriend to miss you is the key to reviving the relationship. This may very well be true. Men thrive on pursuing things. More than winning, they like the struggle and quest that goes into winning. Once you and your boyfriend have settled comfortably into a routine, he feels like he’s already won you over. There’s nothing left for him to strive for.
The key to getting your boyfriend to miss you is to be less available.
Don’t always answer the phone. People are too tied to their phones in general, so this tip will help you even outside of getting your boyfriend to miss you. Just because your phone rings, you don’t have to pick it up. If he calls while you are doing anything—even if it is just during a television show you’re enjoying or a casual conversation with a friend—let the phone go to voicemail and call him back at your leisure. Feel free to wait a few hours. You are not an emergency response worker. As long as the two of you don’t have plans, he isn’t dependent on you to figure out what he is going to do the rest of the day. Also, think of all the times you probably called him and had to wait hours to hear back. Guys seem to have much less of a problem with letting the phone go to voicemail than women do.
Go on a trip without him. If the two of you live together or sleep over at one another’s places often, you may be settling into an “old married couple” routine. Surprise him by going on a trip—even if it’s just for one night—with your girl friends. Tell him ahead of time (a week is sufficient), bid him farewell, and then go have fun. Don’t call him while you’re gone. Be fully present during your trip and then see how much more attentive he is when you get back.
Go out even if he doesn’t want to. If you find yourself in the mood for dancing, seeing a new movie, or going to the museum, and he refuses to go with you, go without him. Whether you go alone or with a girl friend, show him that just because zoning out in front of the tv is an evening well spent in his opinion, you don’t have to be prisoner to his mediocre social life. Dance the night away, see a double-feature, and linger over every piece in the museum and fully enjoy it. After doing this a few times, your guy will perk up and be more enthusiastic about finding interesting ways for the two of you to spend time together. After all, if you start to be your own boyfriend, you might realize that you don’t need him after all.
The key to getting your boyfriend to miss you is to help him realize how much better you make his life. You don’t do this by falling all over yourself to cook and clean for him, demonstrate your sexual prowess, or by helping him with his homework or other duties. You do it by showing him through your actions that you are not afraid to be without him.
The next time you feel like your boyfriend is taking you for granted, don’t nag him about it. Just keep it moving and see how he reacts.
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JJ,
You make a lot of errors with your punctuation.
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Im greatful i stumbled across this post. It helped me understand alot-just need help digesting the pill as u can say lol
is there a way i can contact u on a private level? just needed some more advice after i explain to u my twisted situation.
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Thanks once again and keep up the amazing posts
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