Comments on: Keep It Moving and Expect Nothing http://crazygirlnation.com/2009/05/keep-it-moving-and-expect-nothing/ Advice for Crazy Girls and the People Who Love Us! Wed, 08 Sep 2010 19:49:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Keep It Moving and Expect Nothing — theFreshXpress.com — The PULSE of Young Black America http://crazygirlnation.com/2009/05/keep-it-moving-and-expect-nothing/comment-page-1/#comment-1712 Keep It Moving and Expect Nothing — theFreshXpress.com — The PULSE of Young Black America Mon, 19 Apr 2010 14:23:16 +0000 http://kaneisha.com/?p=60#comment-1712 [...] for my finals, hang out with my friends, and of course, date the guys who are most interested in me.[ORIGINALLY POSTED HERE]Tagged as: Dating, Relationships Article by Kaneisha GraysonKaneisha Grayson is the Queen CrazyGirl [...] [...] for my finals, hang out with my friends, and of course, date the guys who are most interested in me.[ORIGINALLY POSTED HERE]Tagged as: Dating, Relationships Article by Kaneisha GraysonKaneisha Grayson is the Queen CrazyGirl [...]

]]> By: Kaneisha http://crazygirlnation.com/2009/05/keep-it-moving-and-expect-nothing/comment-page-1/#comment-1707 Kaneisha Mon, 19 Apr 2010 04:33:11 +0000 http://kaneisha.com/?p=60#comment-1707 Hi, Beauty! Obviously, I'm still learning about how all of this works--and I certainly have not been in a relationship for six years. However, I think that this idea could still work in a very long-term relationship. I don't see "keep it moving and expect nothing" as playing games. I see it as understanding how men and women tend to act in relationships so you can navigate relationships better. Thanks for reading! .-= Kaneisha´s last blog ..<a href="http://crazygirlnation.com/2010/04/5-reasons-me-and-teens-are-a-match/" rel="nofollow">5 Reasons Me and Teens are a Match</a> =-. Hi, Beauty! Obviously, I’m still learning about how all of this works–and I certainly have not been in a relationship for six years. However, I think that this idea could still work in a very long-term relationship. I don’t see “keep it moving and expect nothing” as playing games. I see it as understanding how men and women tend to act in relationships so you can navigate relationships better. Thanks for reading!
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]]> By: beautyofmn http://crazygirlnation.com/2009/05/keep-it-moving-and-expect-nothing/comment-page-1/#comment-1706 beautyofmn Mon, 19 Apr 2010 04:18:34 +0000 http://kaneisha.com/?p=60#comment-1706 Hello Kaneisha, Great Post! I do have a question? Does this apply to someone who has a significant other who is a no-nonsense? Meaning they've been together for six years and there is no room for games? BeautyofMN. Hello Kaneisha,

Great Post! I do have a question? Does this apply to someone who has a significant other who is a no-nonsense? Meaning they’ve been together for six years and there is no room for games?

BeautyofMN.

]]> By: Kaneisha http://crazygirlnation.com/2009/05/keep-it-moving-and-expect-nothing/comment-page-1/#comment-1388 Kaneisha Tue, 06 Apr 2010 07:16:49 +0000 http://kaneisha.com/?p=60#comment-1388 Hi Nelsie! First of all, a huge THANK YOU for your great compliment! ("the best thing I ever read"). It sounds like you DO want a relationship with him. I'm not sure how long the two of you have been casually dating, but perhaps it's time to have "the talk". Now, I DO NOT recommend you asking him "Where is this going?" Instead, state your intentions and expectations, and if he doesn't want what you're offering, move on. Here is what I mean: "Shane, I really enjoy the time we spend together, and I feel myself growing closer to you. I'd like us to date more intentionally and try being in a relationship together." Then let him respond. If he is interested in being in a relationship, great! Remember to take it slow! If he is not interested in a relationship, you will definitely have to consider dating other people. You don't want to string one another along, and just end up getting hurt and confused. Thanks for reading! .-= Kaneisha´s last blog ..<a href="http://crazygirlnation.com/2010/04/5-reasons-me-and-teens-are-a-match/" rel="nofollow">5 Reasons Me and Teens are a Match</a> =-. Hi Nelsie! First of all, a huge THANK YOU for your great compliment! (“the best thing I ever read”). It sounds like you DO want a relationship with him. I’m not sure how long the two of you have been casually dating, but perhaps it’s time to have “the talk”. Now, I DO NOT recommend you asking him “Where is this going?” Instead, state your intentions and expectations, and if he doesn’t want what you’re offering, move on. Here is what I mean:

“Shane, I really enjoy the time we spend together, and I feel myself growing closer to you. I’d like us to date more intentionally and try being in a relationship together.” Then let him respond.

If he is interested in being in a relationship, great! Remember to take it slow!
If he is not interested in a relationship, you will definitely have to consider dating other people. You don’t want to string one another along, and just end up getting hurt and confused.

Thanks for reading!
Kaneisha´s last blog ..5 Reasons Me and Teens are a Match My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: Nelsie http://crazygirlnation.com/2009/05/keep-it-moving-and-expect-nothing/comment-page-1/#comment-1378 Nelsie Tue, 06 Apr 2010 00:31:43 +0000 http://kaneisha.com/?p=60#comment-1378 I'm casually seeing a guy and we both don't want a relationship but we test our boundaries all the time. I won't call him for days and he worries. He won't call for days and I worry. We both say we don't want more but tend to just stick with each other instead of dating other people. So we play our games and we both know it. So the problem is that I want to do more for him but know that I can't. He hides the fact that he wants to see me more. So how do you think mentally I should go about all of this. It's very confusing and frustrating. This blog is the best thing I ever read. Please help! I’m casually seeing a guy and we both don’t want a relationship but we test our boundaries all the time. I won’t call him for days and he worries. He won’t call for days and I worry. We both say we don’t want more but tend to just stick with each other instead of dating other people. So we play our games and we both know it. So the problem is that I want to do more for him but know that I can’t. He hides the fact that he wants to see me more. So how do you think mentally I should go about all of this. It’s very confusing and frustrating. This blog is the best thing I ever read. Please help!

]]> By: KD http://crazygirlnation.com/2009/05/keep-it-moving-and-expect-nothing/comment-page-1/#comment-1197 KD Wed, 31 Mar 2010 02:48:43 +0000 http://kaneisha.com/?p=60#comment-1197 Thanks for the great advice. Im going throuh a rough patch with my boyfriend right now with him saying he needs his space and figuring out what he wants in life so your advice about doing whats good for YOU and keeping yourself happy has really put into perspective what I need to be doing. Thanks for the great advice. Im going throuh a rough patch with my boyfriend right now with him saying he needs his space and figuring out what he wants in life so your advice about doing whats good for YOU and keeping yourself happy has really put into perspective what I need to be doing.

]]> By: Kaneisha http://crazygirlnation.com/2009/05/keep-it-moving-and-expect-nothing/comment-page-1/#comment-931 Kaneisha Thu, 21 Jan 2010 17:19:33 +0000 http://kaneisha.com/?p=60#comment-931 @NN: Thank you for your wonderful comment! It is very encouraging to me when people write in to say that what I have written has helped them. We're all in this together! Thanks for reading! @NN: Thank you for your wonderful comment! It is very encouraging to me when people write in to say that what I have written has helped them. We’re all in this together! Thanks for reading!

]]> By: NN http://crazygirlnation.com/2009/05/keep-it-moving-and-expect-nothing/comment-page-1/#comment-876 NN Wed, 30 Dec 2009 21:55:36 +0000 http://kaneisha.com/?p=60#comment-876 I happened to stumble across your blog, by way of another blog, and it must be fate or something, because this post is EXACTLY what I needed to read. I am a woman right in the middle of a situation where I was doing the obsessing and questioning, and feeling the frustration and disappointment, so it is beautifully fateful that I came across this today. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this post, this is WONDERFUL advice. A lot of dating advice tends to come off as thinly-veiled attacks on women's self-esteem, but this post right here is the most on point advice I have read in a very long time. THANK-YOU for this advice, you have really freed my mind and soothed my soul!!!! p.s. the rest of your blog is pretty great too! I happened to stumble across your blog, by way of another blog, and it must be fate or something, because this post is EXACTLY what I needed to read. I am a woman right in the middle of a situation where I was doing the obsessing and questioning, and feeling the frustration and disappointment, so it is beautifully fateful that I came across this today. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this post, this is WONDERFUL advice. A lot of dating advice tends to come off as thinly-veiled attacks on women’s self-esteem, but this post right here is the most on point advice I have read in a very long time. THANK-YOU for this advice, you have really freed my mind and soothed my soul!!!! p.s. the rest of your blog is pretty great too!

]]> By: No More Crying on the Inside http://crazygirlnation.com/2009/05/keep-it-moving-and-expect-nothing/comment-page-1/#comment-633 No More Crying on the Inside Mon, 09 Nov 2009 23:42:19 +0000 http://kaneisha.com/?p=60#comment-633 [...] men by calling them. If it has been a day or two since I’ve heard from my special guy, instead of going about my life, writing, doing my homework, taking a bubble bath, or cleaning my room, I spend hours being worried [...] [...] men by calling them. If it has been a day or two since I’ve heard from my special guy, instead of going about my life, writing, doing my homework, taking a bubble bath, or cleaning my room, I spend hours being worried [...]

]]> By: Never Let Him See You Sweat http://crazygirlnation.com/2009/05/keep-it-moving-and-expect-nothing/comment-page-1/#comment-594 Never Let Him See You Sweat Thu, 29 Oct 2009 16:00:56 +0000 http://kaneisha.com/?p=60#comment-594 [...] Like all the advice I give to my Crazy Girls, I’m still working hard to learn this principle myself. It makes perfect sense to me, but I often still try to communicate with my words, tears, whining, dropping hints, etc. I’m slowly learning that when start acting a fool, the last thing I should do is join them in their foolishness and get myself all upset. The next time your dating life is making you want to pull your hair out, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and keep it moving. [...] [...] Like all the advice I give to my Crazy Girls, I’m still working hard to learn this principle myself. It makes perfect sense to me, but I often still try to communicate with my words, tears, whining, dropping hints, etc. I’m slowly learning that when start acting a fool, the last thing I should do is join them in their foolishness and get myself all upset. The next time your dating life is making you want to pull your hair out, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and keep it moving. [...]

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