Comments on: Keep It Moving and Expect Nothing

By: Samai

Samai — Mon, 07 May 2012 03:06:38 +0000

I would like to reply for debating and opinion purposes.

First I would like to say that this site lends way to encouragement to women, which we all need more often than not. It’s not deemed necessarily wrong or right but a mere guide for us all to interpret. People will interpret things how they will whether it comes from highly educated person or someone who has had many years of experience from “living”……
Besides how many PARENTS out there took classes or earned degrees on parenting before they were noted as GOOD parents!!! Besides, how do you think we learn anything? It’s based on “living” and then trial and error. Living and testing had to happen before someone even invented COLLEGE AND DEGREES…..

With that said and in response to what you wrote. The therapist you mentioned , Gottman, well, he may be educated and that’s great but he always writes alot ( i didn’t say that’s ALL he writes about) about “marriage relationships”…. As far as Mr. Gray, you are calling him “completely” wrong? He does have a PhD. and is he is practical in what he writes and personally I don’t think it necessarly takes a PhD. to write a book about practical “things” we all come to learn.

I think this site and young lady is speaking on more to do with how to GET and KEEP relationships but moreso how to VALUE ourselves as women and not invest EVERY aspect of who we are. Basically, not losing our true self to a man just to have ANY man.

I must say I do appreciate your comments and your zest for not wanting society to be fed “crap” but let’s not be so harsh. Let’s just be open and realistic.

Peace and love to everyone!

By: vanessa

vanessa — Sat, 31 Dec 2011 06:56:51 +0000

do you think keep it moving and expect nothing also go for couples in serious/longer relationships?

By: Dayanara

Dayanara — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 17:51:35 +0000

Thank u so much for this blog. I am going through heartache right now and your blog as well as support from friends and family is really helping me get through this. Whenever I’m feeling weak I read and re read your words. Thank u

By: Jairus Cesarz

Jairus Cesarz — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 19:09:28 +0000

I normally don’t comment on things, but I couldn’t help myself. I’m a communication major, and I can’t help but point out how incredibly wrong most (if not all) of what you said is. If so many people weren’t taking this advice to heart, I wouldn’t say anything, but honestly, it’s ridiculous. John Gray has no business writing anything about communication between men and women considering he doesn’t have a degree in anything related to what he writes about. He is COMPLETELY wrong, as are the authors of “He’s Just Not That Into You” and “Why Men Love Bitches” (also, you’re really quoting a book called “Why Men Love Bitches” and basing beliefs on it?). Women aren’t starry-eyed, sentimental saps, and men aren’t cold, calculating players. If you would like to look into research done on this subject, I advise you look into the work of Pepper Schwartz, John Gottman, Ellen Berscheid, Susan & Clyde Hendrick, Shirley Glass, and other professionals who actually know what they are talking about. It will give you research proven information rather than what some hack wrote. It makes me incredibly sad that our population drinks in all of this crap that pop culture spews, but unfortunately comments like this are all that I can do to try to change what people think.

By: ruth

ruth — Sun, 04 Sep 2011 23:26:04 +0000

love the way you see it.. you have helped me alot us woman do tend to leave our lives behind because of a man, they keep moving while your stuck trying to figure out all these things. thank you alot.

By: Sabrina

Sabrina — Tue, 19 Jul 2011 01:11:59 +0000

I really took this great advise! I have recently met up with an ex from13 YEARS AGO!! Sweet teenage love then! But we have grown me more successuful with high expectations for myself and others! So that sad yes I have been lonely for 3 years before we started something! Of course I fell head over heels and to moved things to fast. Again I have waited so long to have all, the happines, the strong bound and deep love I never stop to think is this person capable of giving me what I truly want and think I deserve? We have had a roller coster of unstability from him mostly and hes very self centered! For an example he will disappear from all when he is stressed and angry thats fine but at first I go crazy looking for him calling his mothers phone cause well yea he is staying with her! I know what I want and have bended allot with this one because I have got to start somewhere! I have a hard time excepting his bagage and how he cant handle daily stressors! He does need help and I just go out of it cant fix him!!

By: marz

marz — Tue, 31 May 2011 17:52:46 +0000

i am dating a man who is 23 and im 18. We’ve been dating for about 4 months now. I’ve just gotten too serious about this guy too early and i feel as if he’s started taking me for granted now. I make all the efforts for our bond to get stronger as he has a very busy schedule for himself he does say he loves me and that he wants us to be together but i dont feel the love and chemistry between us now. I want you to help me fall for me completely and make him make all the efforts now as im sick of striving to keep my love with me and to have him stay with me forever

By: Sangita Poria

Sangita Poria — Fri, 22 Apr 2011 07:39:45 +0000

I’m so full of positive energy now.
I Love You for this….
My guy loves me a lot, but somewhere he have started ignoring me unknowingly , may be because I always thought of him all day n night since 3 yrs of our relationship.
I know what to do now.

THANK YOU SO MUCH!
♥

By: kaey

kaey — Mon, 21 Mar 2011 18:06:08 +0000

i like your blog. it’s very empowering. i can’t help smiling while reading it. it’s like, “Hey, girlfriend, I hear you.” Just what i need.

By: Chante'

Chante' — Tue, 18 Jan 2011 01:48:45 +0000

Great Feedback!!! Thanks, totally makes sense!!!